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Tuesday, March 9, 2010

3/9/10 Telling

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20 comments:

diane said...

Great story really showing both sides of the thought process...I still havent decided to tell anyone else but I feel I stilll have such a long way to go. Thanks for this one!

Jess said...

Hello! This is the first time I have looked at your blog and it is very interesting! I hope all goes well with telling the news! I chose to tell everyone from the beginning and it can get annoying answering everyone's constant questions and concerns but I don't think I regret telling. Plus my BFF is going to be banded in a couple weeks, too, and it has become kind of a joint journey and everyone knows it! Good luck! check out my blog
http://jaeworldizin.blogspot.com/

Bandita Senorita said...

I have told two people so far other than my fellow bandits online. I'm so glad that I have this community too--they know what I'm going through and are so supportive.

Sally Hamilton said...

I've been very open with everyone about my lapband surgery and to my knowledge have not received any negative feedback. Quite the contrary, I feel like I've been help a lot of folks that are just like me make a very important life decision - some of elected to have WLS and some of decided it wasn't for them. Bottom line, I really don't care what anyone thinks about my decision to have WLS - I know in my heart it has been the right decision for me.

Sandy Lee said...

Same thought I have but I have told a few family (including my kids) and just a couple of friends for now. Maybe in a year I will be shouting from the rooftops too, but right now, I get such positive support from bloggers that I know I won't get from anyone else.

Great Post. Good luck with the news to everyone. Our kids aren't as dumb as we think!

Trixie said...

I'm glad your telling has gone well; it sounds like you've got a great supportive family!

I've told everyone -- well, closer family that I actually see, friends and coworkers. I debated a little about it, but I've got one of those personalites where for the most part, other people's critisism of me doesn't bug me one bit. lol Everyone that knows has been very supportive and only one person has turned into the food police, which is pretty good in my book!

Kristen said...

I've been thinking about this 'topic' of telling ..I'm close to getting a surgery date but not there yet.. so I at least want to wait until that point. I think I'd like to set a weight goal and once I reach that..maybe I could feel more like telling other people in my life and maybe helping them to get on this journey of weight loss..

Great post!

Kristin said...

Great post. Love that the boys didn't even notice you were in the hospital. Kids are so oblivious to that kind of thing, it never ceases to amaze me.

I've told my immediate family about the band but now I have mixed feelings about it because the weight is not coming off much at all. I've lost 30 pounds but that's since October so it's been gradual. I think your idea was a good one.

I do think maybe your siblings with weight issues might be inspired to get bands themselves after seeing you do so well with yours. So telling them may be opening this opportunity for them, if they're interested.

LDswims said...

Great post, BG. I was wondering if you'd eventually decide to tell. I kind of foresaw that you'd at least tell your kids - I'm glad you did! It, in some ways, will probably help them to avoid going down the obesity road when they are older and their metabolisms slow down. Brings it close to home that "it can happen to them".

Anyway, as I think you know, I told a select few and I regret telling most everyone save my sweet hubby and one or two other people. Given that telling has slapped me upside the head already, I wonder if I'll ever want to go shout it out... We shall see! I do know, that as I get closer to a date, I am more interested in telling others. But mostly here at work as they are noticing I'm drinking meals and will notice when I'm off work. As for neighbors, friends, family - just not feelin like sharing anymore.

Strange stuff this tell/don't tell debate!

Rebekah said...

BG--"telling" for you is coming to a point in this journey where you are daring to believe (not just hope) that this time is for keeps. I'm really happy for you!

I've been VERY open book about this to everyone (EXCEPT AT CHURCH AND WORK!!!)and it has had pros and cons. Mostly the cons have been that you can tell everyone is expecting huge weight loss between times that I've seen them and it adds to a sort of inner turmoil when I haven't got to where I want to be by that point. The plus side to it is everyone's supportive and doesn't ask any questions about why I can't eat that sandwich or whatever. The BIGGEST advantage is that three of my friends and my sister have all started the process of research. I like to feel like I've been a pioneer of sorts for them.

I'm really really happy that you've waited until now to tell though...the BEST decision and I know you don't regret it one second!!

Happy telling!!

Bonnie said...

I go back and forth. My husband and best friend know. I'm getting the surgery at the hospital where I work, so I'm afraid that my work people will find out anyway. Things are supposed to be confidential, but you know how that can go sometimes. I'm not really afraid to tell my family and kids - I think they will be supportive. I do think people will be expecting me to lose weight quickly, but I'll explain up front what my expectations are. If they have difference expectations, too bad.

workinprogress said...

Really well said!!

Anonymous said...

Congratulations and good luck to you! I can keep other people's secrets, but I cannot keep my own. :) It does put on a lot of extra pressure, but I know that I couldn't have done it any other way.

I'm so glad to hear about your kids' reactions. As long as your immediate family is supportive, it is easier to take on whatever the extended family brings!

LoseIt!

Anonymous said...

Hi BG, So glad to hear all the GOOD NEWS! ;-)

I am so Happy for you and your family. My kids have known from beginning and have worried all along my journey. You spared them that. That's a good thing.

I will see the Dr. tomorrow and let you know how I make out.

Oh ya!! The funniest thing happened to me today!!! I inherited a scale a really good one. OMG a scale!!!!
Now what am I going to do..... I did not have one for many reasons. I hope I can sleep tonight knowing it is in my house. LOL Best wishes and Great Blog thanks Love imaluckydog

Anonymous said...

Hi BG, So glad to hear all the GOOD NEWS! ;-)

I am so Happy for you and your family. My kids have known from beginning and have worried all along my journey. You spared them that. That's a good thing.

I will see the Dr. tomorrow and let you know how I make out.

Oh ya!! The funniest thing happened to me today!!! I inherited a scale a really good one. OMG a scale!!!!
Now what am I going to do..... I did not have one for many reasons. I hope I can sleep tonight knowing it is in my house. LOL Best wishes and Great Blog thanks Love imaluckydog

Camille said...

Great post. I have only told my husband who attends appointments with me and has been a HUGE support, two fellow bandsters at work, and my closest friend. I will probably tell my tennis buddies first because they will notice they weight loss faster when I start kickin their a** on the court!

Jill said...

I told everyone. I've got the kind of personality that I wouldn't be able to not tell if someone commented on my weight loss, so I just figured I'd get it out of the way at the beginning.

But sometimes I wish I'd kept it to myself, mainly because it's been 10 weeks since my surgery and I've only lost 20 pounds and have no restriction even after two fills. I feel pressure to lose more quickly because I think others are expecting it.

Reading back on that last paragraph, I think it's my problem and not theirs. My friends and family have been nothing but supportive. But I can't wait to get restriction and lose faster.

I think you handled it perfectly.

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MandaPanda said...

Great post! I'm in the "only telling people that I know will be completely positive" group. I did tell my mom, which was very hard,and she's been supportive (albeit a bit quiet). Good luck!

Maria said...

I have a big mouth and I don't care what others think...I really have had a lot of positive reactions, so it's gone pretty good for me. My kids knew what I was doing, but I don't think they really knew much of what it's about. It's another one of mommy's diets according to them. I can see once again you are to worried about what they say! Tell them and that's that! nothing more to worry about! You look fabulous what can they say now?
Good Luck!

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